People Come Into Your Life For A Reason

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People come into your path for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
When you know which one it is, you will know what to do with that person.
When someone is in your life for a REASON it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a dificulty…
To provide you with guidance and support…
To aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually…
They may seem like they are a godsend, and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then without any wrongdoing on your part, or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die…
Sometimes they walk away…
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand….
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled…
Their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has now been answered and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON.
Because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons.
Things you must build upon to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.
It is said that love is blind, but friendship is clairvoyant.
Thank you for being a part of my life…
Whether you were a reason, a season or a lifetime

~ unknown author

 

Someone emailed me this poem a long time ago.. if i’m not mistaken, it was in powerpoint with lots of beautiful images of amazing sceneries and flowers.

Sekadar Gambar Hiasan

I had almost forgotten about the poem.. but today, as I was driving from home to work, I was driving behind a Viva with an L sign. I was brought back to the time when I first attended the 5 [or was it 8] hours course at the driving school some 11 years ago. I remembered the course being long and boring, but there was this girl, perhaps a yr younger than I, sitting next to me. She was very friendly and she became my best friend during the whole 8hrs. After the course ended, I never saw her again. I couldn’t help but wondered where she is now… gosh! I don’t even remember her face – and her name.. 😐 All I remembered was that she was very friendly and she already knew how to drive before she went to the course.

May be she came into my life for a reason – so that I’ll have someone to have lunch with, to make the course less boring than it actually is.. just someone to keep me company.. my need has been met, her work is done.. that’s why she was never in my life again.

When I think about her, I kinda miss her actually..

So to the girl I met at the driving school : Thank you for being a part of my life…

And then, after her, I was suddenly reminded of all the people who I’ve met briefly, but left a huge footprints in my heart..

Sekadar Gambar Hiasan. Courtesy of http://www.marghanita.com

The charming tall guy I met back in my Uni years when we both attended some Christian (RC) Student gathering in KL. He was a Sabahan too. Very friendly and told me a lot of interesting stories. He was my bestfriend for the whole weekend and I think I had a huge crush on him at that time haha.. And I never saw him again… until at cousin’s engagement a few years ago. I’m sure it was him, but I’m not sure if he remembers me :-) My heart did skip a beat – not because I still have a crush on him, ok.. more like surprised  because I haven’t seen him for maybe 12 years, and sometimes I did wonder what has happened to him.. of course when you saw the person, the heart did skip a beat for his footprints are still on my heart 😀

To the charming tall guy : Thank you for being a part of my life…

The industrial trainee attached to the private company I worked with 11 years ago. She is actually very petite and cute! She was seated behind me and we instantly became good friends. I was being all big-sister-ly to her when soon after, I found out, she was actually 5 years older than I! I felt a bit awkward at first.. Anyway, she was a very very good friend and after she finished her industrial trainings, we keep in touch for a while, then I lost her phone number. Lost touch for a good 5-6 years, the I found her again on FB :-)

To the cute industrial trainee : Thank you for being a part of my life…

The Sarawakian Girl  whom I met when I went to report duty at W.P.Putrajaya 9 yrs ago. Was lucky enough back then when I manage to get hired [by the government] on my first SPA 8 interview. We had a 1 day orientation and she was so excited to become my housemate. She was my bestfriend during the whole day. Unfortunately, I am the only one who got posted to Putrajaya, whereas the rest got posted to their own hometown – including Sarawakian Girl :-(

Like the girl at the driving school, I don’t remember her name, or even her face. All I can remember about her – except for where she’s from – was that she’s quite tall and she loves karaoke :-)

So to the Sarawakian Girl : Thank you for being a part of my life…

And also to all the others I didn’t mention today, this poem is for you.

Thank you for being a part of my life…
Whether you were a reason, a season or a lifetime :-)


Inspirational Song : Sunscreen by Baz Lurhmann

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I LOVE this song. The lyric is so inspirational, especially those in bolds. Enjoy everyone..

Ladies and Gentlemen of the class of ’97.
Wear sunscreen.
If I could offer you only one tip for the future, sunscreen would be it.
The long term benefits of sunscreen have been proved by scientists, whereas the rest of my advice has no basis more reliable than my own meandering experience…
I will dispense this advice now.

Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth; oh nevermind; you will not understand the power and beauty of your youth until they have faded.

But trust me, in 20 years you’ll look back at photos of yourself and recall in a way you can’t grasp now how much possibility lay before you and how fabulous you really looked…
You’re not as fat as you Imagine.

Don’t worry about the future; or worry, but know that worrying is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubblegum.
The real troubles in your life are apt to be things that never crossed your worried mind.
The kind that blindside you at 4pm on some idle Tuesday.

Do one thing everyday that scares you.

Sing.

Don’t be reckless with other people’s hearts, don’t put up with people who are reckless with yours.

Floss.

Don’t waste your time on jealousy;
Sometimes you’re ahead,
Sometimes You’re behind.
The race is long, and in the end, it’s only with yourself.

Remember the compliments you receive, forget the insults;
If you Succeed in doing this, tell me how.

Keep your old love letters, throw away your old bank statements.

Stretch.

Don’t feel guilty if you don’t know what you want to do with your
Life.
The most interesting people I know didn’t know at 22 what they wanted to do with their lives, some of the most interesting 40 year olds I know still don’t.

Get plenty of calcium.

Be kind to your knees, you’ll miss them when they’re gone.
Maybe you’ll marry, maybe you won’t, maybe you’ll have children, maybe you won’t, maybe you’ll divorce at 40, maybe you’ll dance the funky chicken on your 75th wedding anniversary.
Whatever you do, don’t Congratulate yourself too much or berate yourself either.
Your choices are half chance, so are everybody else’s.
Enjoy your body, Use it every way you can… Don’t be afraid of it, or what other people Think of it,
It’s the greatest instrument you’ll ever own…

Dance… even if you have nowhere to do it but in your own living room.

Read the directions, even if you don’t follow them.

Do NOT read beauty magazines, they will only make you feel ugly.

Brother and sister together we’ll make it through
Someday your spirit will take you and guide you there
I know you’ve been hurting, but I’ve been waiting to be there
For you.
And I’ll be there, just tell me now, whenever I can.
Everybody’s free.

Get to know your parents, you never know when they’ll be gone for good.

Be nice to your siblings;
They are the best link to your past and the people most likely to stick with you in the future.

Understand that friends come and go, but for the precious few you should hold on.
Work hard to bridge the gaps in geography and lifestyle because the older you get, the more you need the people you knew when you were young.

Live in New York City once, but leave before it makes you hard;
Live in Northern California once, but leave before it makes you soft.

Travel.

Accept certain inalienable truths, prices will rise, politicians will Philander, you too will get old, and when you do you’ll fantasize that when you were young prices were reasonable, politicians were noble and children respected their elders.

Respect your elders.

Don’t expect anyone else to support you.
Maybe you have a trust fund, Maybe you have a wealthy spouse; but you never know when either one might run out.

Don’t mess too much with your hair, or by the time you’re 40, it will look 85.

Be careful whose advice you buy, but, be patient with those who supply it. Advice is a form of nostalgia, dispensing it is a way of fishing the past from the disposal, wiping it off, painting over the ugly parts and recycling it for more than it’s worth.

But trust me on the sunscreen…

(Brother and sister together we’ll make it through
Someday your spirit will take you and guide you there
I know you’ve been hurting, but I’ve been waiting to be there
For you. And I’ll be there, just tell me now, whenever I can.
Everybody’s free.)

Hahaha.. almost all in bold.. but that’s how inspirational this song is to me. Come On.. Read the lyrics and let me know what you think of it.. enjoy..

owh and by the way, if you don’t know the song, here’s a video from youtube..

Excerpt from the youtube description :
The lyrics are taken from a famous essay — written in 1997 by Mary Schmich, a columnist with the Chicago Tribune — which gives some amazing advice for life, thoroughly recommend everyone to watch this ! enjoy !


Sharing is Caring

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Hi People..

Hope you’re now a lot wiser after looking at my wisdom tooth for quite a certain amount of time.. hehe :-) It was a perfectly healthy tooth but i had to pull it out because it was growing in the wrong direction [due to no “friend” on my lower jaw] and it was causing me painful gums as food can easily get stuck there.. and to tell you the truth (and to brag a bit).. i never had a single rotten tooth in all my 32 yrs 1 month and 26 days of existence. Never had a tooth filled and never had a tooth pulled out because it was rotten. Looks like my daughter is also taking after me, no rotten teeth yet and she’s already 7.

But enough about my teeth.. it’s not like you haven’t look at it for what seems like ages now.. hehe..

The main reason for this particular post today is actually to share with you and with the rest of the world about 50 Rules for Dads of Daughters by Michael Mitchell. If you’ve read this before, then read it again.. I’m sure it can get you to shed a tear or two.. again.

When I first read them, i did get all teary-eyed.. they had really stricken a chord in me either in remembering the ways my beloved dad has treated me as i was growing up or in the ways i saw my dearest husband treating our daughter as well.

This article is taken from From Dates to Diapers and the original author is Michael Mitchell who blogs about tips and life lessons for Dads with Daughters in Life To Her Years. If I’m not mistaken, these 50 Rules here are only the first 50 tips from his blog.. I visited it and noticed that the latest entry is Rule 238.

Here goes the 50 Rules for Dads of Daughters:-

 

1. Love her mom. Treat her mother with respect, honor, and a big heaping spoonful of public displays of affection. When she grows up, the odds are good she’ll fall in love with and marry someone who treats her much like you treated her mother. Good or bad, that’s just the way it is. I’d prefer good.


2. Always be there. Quality time doesn’t happen without quantity time. Hang out together for no other reason than just to be in each other’s presence. Be genuinely interested in the things that interest her. She needs her dad to be involved in her life at every stage. Don’t just sit idly by while she add years to her… add life to her years.


 

3. Save the day. She’ll grow up looking for a hero. It might as well be you. She’ll need you to come through for her over and over again throughout her life. Rise to the occasion. Red cape and blue tights optional.


 

4. Savor every moment you have together. Today she’s crawling around the house in diapers, tomorrow you’re handing her the keys to the car, and before you know it, you’re walking her down the aisle. Some day soon, hanging out with her old man won’t be the bees knees anymore. Life happens pretty fast. You better cherish it while you can.


5. Pray for her. Regularly. Passionately. Continually.


 

6. Buy her a glove and teach her to throw a baseball. Make her proud to throw like a girl… a girl with a wicked slider.


 

7. She will fight with her mother. Choose sides wisely.


 

8. Go ahead. Buy her those pearls.


9. Of course you look silly playing peek-a-boo. You should play anyway.


 

10. Enjoy the wonder of bath time.


11. There will come a day when she asks for a puppy. Don’t over think it. At least one time in her life, just say, “Yes.”


12. It’s never too early to start teaching her about money. She will still probably suck you dry as a teenager… and on her wedding day.


 

13. Make pancakes in the shape of her age for breakfast on her birthday. In a pinch, donuts with pink sprinkles and a candle will suffice.


 

14. Buy her a pair of Chucks as soon as she starts walking. She won’t always want to wear matching shoes with her old man.


 

Photo Credit :: Danielle Rocke Toews

15. Dance with her. Start when she’s a little girl or even when she’s a baby. Don’t wait ‘til her wedding day.


 

16. Take her fishing. She will probably squirm more than the worm on your hook. That’s OK.


17. Learn to say no. She may pitch a fit today, but someday you’ll both be glad you stuck to your guns.


18. Tell her she’s beautiful. Say it over and over again. Someday an animated movie or “beauty” magazine will try to convince her otherwise.


 

19. Teach her to change a flat. A tire without air need not be a major panic inducing event in her life. She’ll still call you crying the first time it happens.


20. Take her camping. Immerse her in the great outdoors. Watch her eyes fill with wonder the first time she sees the beauty of wide open spaces. Leave the iPod at home.


21. Let her hold the wheel. She will always remember when daddy let her drive.


22. She’s as smart as any boy. Make sure she knows that.


23. When she learns to give kisses, she will want to plant them all over your face. Encourage this practice.


24. Knowing how to eat sunflower seeds correctly will not help her get into a good college. Teach her anyway.


25. Letting her ride on your shoulders is pure magic. Do it now while you have a strong back and she’s still tiny.


26. It is in her nature to make music. It’s up to you to introduce her to the joy of socks on a wooden floor.


27. If there’s a splash park near your home, take her there often. She will be drawn to the water like a duck to a puddle.


28. She will eagerly await your return home from work in the evenings. Don’t be late.


29. If her mom enrolls her in swim lessons, make sure you get in the pool too. Don’t be intimidated if there are no other dads there. It’s their loss.


30. Never miss her birthday. In ten years she won’t remember the present you gave her. She will remember if you weren’t there.


31. Teach her to roller skate. Watch her confidence soar.


32. Let her roll around in the grass. It’s good for her soul. It’s not bad for yours either.


33. Take her swimsuit shopping. Don’t be afraid to veto some of her choices, but resist the urge to buy her full-body beach pajamas.


34. Somewhere between the time she turns three and her sixth birthday, the odds are good that she will ask you to marry her. Let her down gently.


35. She’ll probably want to crawl in bed with you after a nightmare. This is a good thing.


36. Few things in life are more comforting to a crying little girl than her father’s hand. Never forget this.


37. Introduce her to the swings at your local park. She’ll squeal for you to push her higher and faster. Her definition of “higher and faster” is probably not the same as yours. Keep that in mind.


38. When she’s a bit older, your definition of higher and faster will be a lot closer to hers. When that day comes, go ahead… give it all you’ve got.


39. Holding her upside down by the legs while she giggles and screams uncontrollably is great for your biceps. WARNING: She has no concept of muscle fatigue.


40. She might ask you to buy her a pony on her birthday. Unless you live on a farm, do not buy her a pony on her birthday. It’s OK to rent one though.


41. Take it easy on the presents for her birthday and Christmas. Instead, give her the gift of experiences you can share together.


42. Let her know she can always come home. No matter what.


43. Remember, just like a butterfly, she too will spread her wings and fly some day. Enjoy her caterpillar years.


44. Write her a handwritten letter every year on her birthday. Give them to her when she goes off to college, becomes a mother herself, or when you think she needs them most.


45. Learn to trust her. Gradually give her more freedom as she gets older. She will rise to the expectations you set for her.


46. When in doubt, trust your heart. She already does.


47. When your teenage daughter is upset, learning when to engage and when to back off will add years to YOUR life. If you succeed in doing this, tell me how.


48. Ice cream covers over a multitude of sins. Know her favorite flavor.


49. This day is coming soon. There’s nothing you can do to be ready for it. The sooner you accept this fact, the easier it will be.


50. Today she’s walking down the driveway to get on the school bus. Tomorrow she’s going off to college. Don’t blink.


Day 07 – A picture of someone/something that has the biggest impact on you

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Hello people..

Here I am on my 7th Day Challenge. In today’s challenge, I’m supposed to post a picture of someone or something that has the biggest impact on me. Again, this challenge was a bit delayed because I’m not really sure what ‘something’ or who’s the ‘someone’ that ‘has the biggest impact on me’.

Now, before i carry on, I’d like to let you ppl know that I had an interesting day this morning. I saw something very inspiring, very uplifting and this indirectly had made me realize who are the ‘someone’ important in my life – those special ‘someone’ that have made a big impact on me [and hubby too, i believe].

These two are my special someone. I believe all mothers would agree with me that when our baby had first arrived in our lives, as ready as we may have thought we were back then, it still felt as if our world has been turned upside down, rotated 180°. I remembered there was this one time when I asked my hubby a few weeks after Ellone was born, “When will our lives be back to normal again?” to which hubby replied, “Honey, THIS is our normal lives now”.

Come to think of it, I have actually posted 20 things that change when you have a baby a few years ago. These sums up all the impacts they had on me :-)

Ok, I guess Mission Accomplished again, but I’m not done yet 😀

Now I’d like to share the ‘something inspirational’ i mentioned earlier.

This morning, we went to Public Bank for their Roadshow. There was a Coloring & Art&Craft Contest which Ellone took part and while the kids are doing the contest, the parents are introduced to their insurance product related to children’s education. In his intro, the speaker said something about us wanting the best for our children. He then showed a video, which is also available in youtube about a father who took his physically disabled son to compete in Ironman Triathlon, one of the toughest triathlons probably in the world!

Ok, maybe some of you had already seen this video but this was my 1st time watching it and it moved me so much it even brought tears to my eyes. Lucky the lights were dimmed 😀

It shows just how much the father loves his son and he would do everything to fulfill his son’s wish – he wanted to give the best to his son and mind you, the dad is not young anymore owh..

I later found out that this father and son are Dick & Rick Hoyt and together, they are known as Team Hoyt. Rick was diagnosed as a spastic quadriplegic with cerebral palsy and he’s not able to walk or speak. A machine was built for Rick to help him to communicate and with the help of that machine, they learnt that Rick loves sports. Rick told his dad that he wishes to compete in a race and soon, they began taking parts in  races, marathons, duathlons and triathlons. Very very inspiring…

So, have you watched the clips yet?


The Law of the Garbage Trucks

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was blog-hopping and found this…

The Law of the Garbage Trucks
A good philosophy, worth trying

The Law of the Garbage Trucks
How often do you let other people’s nonsense change your mood? Do you let a bad driver, rude waiter, curt boss, or an insensitive employee ruin your day?

Unless you’re the Terminator, for an instant you’re probably setback on your heels. However, the mark of a successful person is how quickly she can get back her focus on what’s important.

I learned it in the back of a Harare City taxi cab. Here’s whathappened. I hopped in a taxi and we took off for Westgate .We were driving when all of a sudden a black car jumped out of a parking space right in front of us. My taxi driver slammed on his breaks, skidded, and missed the other car’s back end by just inches!

Here’s what happened next. The driver of the other car, the guy who almost caused a big accident, whipped his head around and he started yelling bad words at us. How do I know? Ask any Zimbabwean, some wordsin Harare come with a special face.

Now, here’s what blew me away. My taxi driver just smiled and waved at the guy. And I mean, he was friendly. So, I said, “Why did you justdo that? This guy almost ruined your car and sent us to the hospital!”

And this is when my taxi driver told me what I now call, “The Law of the Garbage Truck.”

Many people are like garbage trucks. They run around full ofgarbage, full of frustration, full of anger, and full of disappointment. As their garbage piles up, they need a place to dump it. And if you letthem, they’ll dump it on you. When someonewants to dump on you, don’t take it personally. You just smile, wave,wish them well, and move on. You’ll be happy you did. I guarantee it.

So this was it: The “Law of the Garbage Truck.” I started thinking,how often do I let Garbage Trucks run right over me? And how often do Itake their garbage and spread it to other people: at work, at home, onthe streets? It was that day I said, “I’m not going to do it anymore.”

I began to see garbage trucks. Like in the movie “The Sixth Sense,”the little boy said, “I see Dead People.” Well now “I see GarbageTrucks.”I see the loadthey’re carrying. I see them coming to drop it off. And like my Taxi Driver, I don’t make it a personal thing; I just smile, wave, wish themwell, and I move on.

One of my favourite Football players of all times, Ronaldino, doesthis every day on the football field. With a smile he always jumps up as quickly as he hits the ground after being tackled. He never dwells on ahit. Ronaldino is always ready to make the next play his best. Goodleaders know they have to be ready for their next meeting. Good parents know that they have to welcome their children home from school with hugsand kisses.

Leaders and parents know that they have to be fully present, and attheir best for the people they care about.

The bottom line is that successful people do not let Garbage Truckstake over their day.

What about you? What would happen in your life, starting today, if you let more garbage trucks pass you by? You’ll be happier. I guarantee it.

ok, so my “immediate boss” is now a garbage truck

last friday, she sent us (all the “supposedly technical” staff of my dept) an email, INVITING us to attend a new “simple” system briefing. Since i was on “cuti-cuti Malaysia” last friday, i only saw the e-mail yesterday, about 3 minutes before the briefing starts. i decided not to go because

1. INVITATION only maaa… as an invited person, u hv the right to decline. E.g : when someone sent u a wedding INVITATION, u hv a choice whether to go or not to go. it’s not like someone would die if u dont attend.

2. it is just a simple system, and if u’re stoopid enough and doesnt really know how to use it, u can always ask around. plus, the programmer of the system sits right in front and doesnt really hv much to do u can ask him anytime.

and now, she wants a show-cause letter. GREAT!!!

anyway… decided to IGNORE…

or perhaps i can ask for a show-cause letter on why she didnt attend my wedding when i have already wasted my RM1.80 INVITATION card on her.

oh but i guess i just wave my hand *wave hand* and smile

coz SHE’S JUST ANOTHER FULLY LOADED GARBAGE TRUCK!


How To Win Friends & Influence People by Dale Carnegie

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This arrive in the mail today…

How To Make People Like You

1. Become genuinely interested in other people.

2. Smile.

3. Remember that the person’s name is the sweetest
and most important sound in any language.

4. Be a good listener; encourage others to talk about themselves.

5. Talk in terms of the other person’s interest.

6. Make the other person feel important–and do it sincerely.

How To Win People To Your Way Of Thinking

1. The only way to get the best of an argument
is to avoid it.

2. Show respect for others’ opinions. Never say,”You’re wrong!”

3. If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.

4. Begin in a friendly way.

5. Get the other person saying; “Yes, yes!” immediately.

6. Let the other person do a great deal of talking.

7. Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers.

8. Try honestly to see things from the other person’s point of view.

9. Be sympathetic with the other person’s ideas and desires.

10. Appeal to the nobler motives.

11. Dramatize your ideas.

12. Throw down a challenge.

How To Be A Leader

1. Begin with praise and honest appreciation.

2. Call attention to other people’s mistakes indirectly.

3. Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.

4. Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.

5. Let the other person save face.

6. Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement.

Add this book to your library. Include its wisdom into your life.
Experience the Carnegie magic….